Co-creating Peace: A podcast about
Conscious Communication & Conflict Transformation
New episodes air on the 2nd & 4th weekend of every month.
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“Why It Matters” Episode #1 of Co-creating Peace (Introduction)
This is a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. I’ll tell you what to expect from this podcast, why I am doing it, and why it matters. You’re also going to hear a letter seeking communication advice, and I’ll share with you the advice I have for her.
Conscious communication, as I define it is: Being mindful before we speak, of what our goal is for the outcome of each communication we embark on – especially in situations that are important to us, or to others – and thoughtfully choosing the words, timing and delivery to best accomplish that goal.
Conflict transformation – as I define it – is first and foremost seeing conflict as an opportunity – and opportunity to grow, to learn, and to co-create a better reality for everyone involved and affected by the conflict. It is mindfully working with a conflict situation with the intention to collaborate to co-create an outcome that benefits all involved, and is to the highest good of all concerned. It is about transcending ideas of who’s right and who’s wrong, or blame and shame, and instead simply identifying what’s not working, then exploring and negotiating creative options for new dynamics that will better meet the needs of those involved and affected.
Renowned mediator and author of “Holding the Calm: The Secret to Resolving Conflict and Defusing Tension” shares some fascinating examples and great tools for how we can all have more peaceful, productive interactions with others.
My dear friend & colleague, attorney/mediator David Levin shares useful, easy-to-implement ideas on how to navigate family conflict, even when they happen during a holiday dinner.
Imagine a world where each individual can counteract the tide of hatred and violence, simply by embracing kindness, compassion, and collaboration. This episode of Co-Creating Peace is all about empowering you to make that subtle, yet profound impact.
Denise Blanc, returns to the show to talk about how curiosity and inquiry can help us to scale that invisible, but oh-so-daunting wall that seems to divide us from the people around us so that we can discover & remember the beauty of our shared humanity.
Renata Valree & Kim Best, two highly skilled professional mediators, share information about Peace Circles and the 12th Annual Month of Nonviolence: October 2023
Melanie Sears joins me again to talk about using Non-violent Communication and empathy to create more humane & compassionate healthcare environments.
Our greatest power tool for building relationships, and our most devastating weapon for destroying them is our use of words. Melanie Sears & I talk about how NVC guides us to use our words to co-create peace.
Author, teacher & coach, Terre Short, shares some great insights into how we can better co-create peace by recognizing when our thoughts are going down what she calls “the yellow brick road” of negative thinking, and pivoting our thinking in a more constructive, collaborative direction.
Loneliness an epidemic on the verge of becoming our next pandemic. Coach Lee Hopkins joins me again to share some great insights & tools about ways that we can transcend loneliness & build strong, mutually beneficial connections with others.
Judy Kane, founder of Aligned Consciousness, and I delve into the ways our subconscious beliefs shape our communication and boundaries, and how being aware of them can help us make more equitable decisions and prioritize our own goals.
Debra Oliver, a mediator with over 30 years experience & I explore the concept of an ‘accidental marriage’ – the complexities of attraction that can lead to subconscious and assumed agreements which may cause issues later in the relationship. We also discuss important details of divorce that divorcing parents often overlook.
Tom Fishman, CEO of Starts with Us & I continue our conversation about powerful ways to bridge divides, including: Seeking diverse perspectives; The importance of intentionality; The relationship between behavior and values & more.
Tom Fishman, CEO of Starts With Us talks about the many creative & exciting ways they are working to give a home, a voice, and real momentum to all who believe it’s time to end the culture wars & make curiosity, compassion & courage the dominant values in our society. Tom will also share some wonderful insights and tools for bridging divides.
Stephan Wiedner, a psychological safety expert, brings us deeper insights into the importance of psychological safety and the myriad of ways it can be used to foster peace and mutual understanding.
For centuries wise people have reminded us – or at least, tried to remind us – that it is much easier to co-create peace with others if we have peace within ourselves. One such person is my guest today, Jennifer Boyatt.
Graham Bodie, Chief Listening Officer at Listen First, and I discuss the healing power of listening to learn & understand, Listen First Project & the National Week of Conversation
Eric Sirotkin and Raphael Masesa talk about ubuntu, and age-old way of being, which recognizes that all living things are connected, and that harm to others, harms oneself while nurturing others nurtures oneself.
Annie Caplan of Living Room Conversations & I discuss the value of listening to learn & understand & how suspending judgement can help us gain new insights.
Howard Falco & I discuss creating & harvesting space between stimulus and response as a portal for our wisdom.
Alan Carroll joins us again to help us to have more of the Mindful Spacious communication picture, by sharing some of the tools & wisdoms of Mindful Spacious Listening.
Alan Carroll joins me to talk about a mindful way to deliver information that creates the space for greater understanding.
Eric Sirotkin joins me to share his insights into the Truth and Reconciliation Commissions, the powerful work they have done, and how much more there is yet to do.
A listener comes on the show for a free on-the-air communication coaching session about a conflict in her family regarding her mother’s early distribution of her estate.
Jennifer Moore and I discuss the difference between having empathy and being empathic, the importance of empaths having multiple types of boundaries, and some of the ways that highly sensitive and empathic people can support their psychological and energetic well-being.
Nancy Pickard & I explore how living relationally can support the sustainability of a relationship, including what to do when we get triggered & how to approach conversation in times of upset.
Nancy Pickard, a Master Integrative Life Coach, joins me to talk about the importance of setting healthy boundaries to help us to have relationships that are sustainable.
Edwin Rutsch joins me to talk about the nature of empathy, and ways we can evoke & experience empathy with others through Empathy Circles.
Award-winning author Margaret Agard and I discuss how she expands her perspective by accessing higher wisdom, and how that impacts her relationships with others.
A conversation about the International Institute for Global Leadership & its tuition-free, self-paced conscious leadership educational program.
Susan Partnow joins me to talk about the Drama Triangle and how to move from the Drama Triangle into a circle of empowerment.
Eric Sirotkin, an attorney in Santa Fe, NM, joins me to talk about creative skill-sets for the 21st century lawyer, moving the role of a lawyer from warrior to a partner for peace in the just resolution of disputes.
Molly Mandelberg, a Transformational Leadership Coach, and I discuss ways each of us can transcend our limiting beliefs.
“How to Move Beyond Blame, Live Your Highest Purpose and Become an Unstoppable Force for Good”, Episode #97
Dr. Fleet Maull & I discuss Radical Responsibility, and how practicing Radical Responsibility can empower us to better co-create peace with others.
Have peaceful conversations with family, using Compassionate Listening practices.
In this episode, we talk about the origin of Compassionate Listening, its five core practices and how we can cultivate compassion.
“Uniting Fractured Communities Through Dialogue, Part 2 – Discovering Deeper Connections With Dialogue”, Episode #94
Positive paradigm shifts happen when we expand our awareness, explore new understandings & embrace the glorious diversity of humanity. All this can happen through dialogue.
“Uniting Fractured Communities Through Dialogue, Part 1 – Bringing Police and Activists Together Through Dialogue”, Episode #93
Learn about police/community dialogues in Part 1 of a 2-part interview of Kathleen Oweegon by Duncan Autrey for the Omni-Win Project podcast.
We’ve all heard the saying, “Timing and delivery are everything!”, and that is especially true when it comes to communication. It is so important to be mindful of not only what we want to say, but when and how. There are some messages that should be shared sooner, rather than later.
In this episode, I share a letter from a listener in France, seeking my advice about boundaries and communication with the very large family she married into.
Difficult times can arise in any relationship. What’s important is how we navigate those difficult times. Joining me to share some insights into that is relationship expert Laura Doyle.
With the help of Living Room Conversations, we can connect across divides and begin to heal our communities & our nation.
Each of us has a story to tell. The wisdom and empowerment that reside within our story are most easily seen when we write our story down.
A conversation with Rabbi David H. Green, who shares some great insights into our soul’s journey and how conflict can be an opportunity for soul growth.
Duncan Autry, creator of The Omni-Win Project, shares his model for approaching difficult conversations and conflict: ARC – Acknowledge, Reflect, Be Curious.
Learn about Clean Inquiry, one of the facets of Clean Language, a tool for communicating consciously and in ways that help others feel safe and empowered to collaborate.
Trauma can impact our ability to effectively communicate with others in several detrimental ways. This week, Karen Robinson, social worker who specializes in trauma recovery, anxiety, and depression joins me to talk about this often-misunderstood impact of trauma and provide some helpful communication tools to assist with difficult conversations.
Just about everyone has experienced trauma in their life. Each person’s journey through their trauma is different. As today’s guest says: “Most of healing from trauma is an inside job.”
In this episode, I’ll share 4 letters from listeners with you. Each letter has a different story to tell about listeners’ experiences with grudges and releasing them.
Today, Coach Lee Hopkins and I continue our conversation about grudges. Last week, we talked about what we might do to help others release their grudge against us. Now we’ll discuss how each of us might work through the grudges we have against others.
In this episode (Part 1), we explore approaches we might take when someone has a grudge against us. Next week, in Part 2, we’ll look at what we can do about our own grudges.
Every Wednesday evening at 5:00 Pacific time, I have conversations with listeners on the Wisdom App, and last week, the focus was “The Power of the Pause”. This topic was inspired by a quote from Victor Frankl. “Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space, is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom”.
The University for Peace, also known as UPeace, is one of the best resources to gain the tools needed to become a peacemaker and to learn many of the skill needed to help bring about peaceful co-existence for our specie and for the planet. Today, I have the pleasure of speaking with Julia Delafield from the Centre for Executive Education at UPeace.
Today, I have the pleasure of having Coach Lee Hopkins join me to share a boundaries framework that he has created, which he calls 3N Boundaries.
Defining our boundaries, being clear with others on what our boundaries are, and being strong in holding our boundaries are acts of love for ourself, and wisdom lessons for others.
In the case of Linda, the listener whose letters I’ll tell you about, her mother had been raised by extremely strict parents – a southern Baptist minister and his very docile wife. Linda’s mother knew nothing about having personal boundaries, so she was unable to teach Linda about boundaries, much less model for Linda how to have and hold one’s boundaries. The inability to define, articulate and hold her boundaries has caused Linda to be taken advantage of at levels that constitute abuse.
One of the biggest and most frustrating obstacles to resolving conflict, or even resolving our feelings about a conflict we’ve had, is when the other person won’t participate in the effort to resolve. Joining me to offer a solution to that dilemma is Louis Bourgarel, with a method of unilateral conflict resolution that he calls “Restart”.
There are times in our lives when we recognize that we aren’t thriving. Nothing seems to be in sync. We experience inner friction and outer friction, and no sense of real peace. In this episode, Sarah Kalmeta and I have a conversation about ways to move through and...
Joining me from Dubai, is Lara Khouri, to share her insights about being seen as “the other”, some approaches to working with that experience, and approaches to working with conflict.
Last week, in Part 1, I spoke with Andrew Safer, founder of Safer Mindfulness Inc. He walked us through a brief mindfulness exercise & shared some insights into the practice of mindfulness. Today, Andrew & I will pick up our conversation where we left off last week and I will take you through a brief mindfulness exercise that I wrote for my Conscious Leadership class, which I call “Opening the Present”.
Andrew Safer, founder of Safer Mindfulness Inc., walks us through a brief mindfulness exercise. He’ll share some insights into the practice of mindfulness, and additional ways that mindfulness can benefit our lives.
Ann Hince & I discuss using the Emotional Freedom Technique, also known as EFT to help release emotions and find inner peace. We’ll also discuss how inner peace leads to peace with others.
This episode is a bit of a change of pace. In today’s episode, I am interviewed by Marta Greca, for her podcast Marta the Minimalist. Marta invited me to be a guest to talk about how to deliver information that the other person may not want to hear. Our focus is...
No matter how strong or long-lasting, every relationship hits rough spots or tough times once in awhile. Branch Isole joins us today to talk about the 7 steps of relationship repair – a very useful approach to successfully moving through those experiences to heal, restore harmony, and grow as a result.
A discussion about the enlightening and healing power of dialogue, and the amazing potential to co-create a better future that collaborative deliberation brings forth.
The difficulties we have with one another are very often the result of lack of insight and understanding. In the absence of information we make assumptions about one another – assumptions that often lead to conflict.There is a cure for this phenomenon, and that is dialogue – sitting down with one another to have conversations that help us to learn about one another at deeper levels.
The journey from goals to reality is not always clear. Wouldn’t it be wonderful to have a map? Fear not, because – in fact – there is a way to map your goals and turn your goals into your reality!
Andrea Petrut joins me today from Toronto Canada for a conversation about the many ways that we can hold the space for peace – within ourselves, between ourselves and others, and in the world. We discuss the relationship between inner peace, outer peace and world...
Last week, I talked about how important it is to give careful thought to the timing and delivery of important conversations and offered some suggestions about what to consider when planning those conversations. Boy, did that topic strike a chord with many of you...
All too often, we neglect to give careful thought to the timing and delivery of important conversations. Sometimes we put them off, when it would be more constructive to have them earlier. Other times, we have important conversations when we’re emotionally escalated,...
In today’s world, wise, ethical and empathetic leadership is needed more than ever. In my conversation today with Terry Wildemann, we discuss Intuitive Leadership and the Law of Attraction.
In this episode, I am joined by Gramps Jeffrey, to talk about his children’s book, “I Don’t Want to Turn 3”, a book that explores what goes through a toddler’s mind as he faces turning 3. Age three, as this toddler sees it, is the age when he’ll have to take...
A conversation with Meta Greca about how her use of conscious interpersonal communication to evolve her life from professional collapse & personal dis-empowerment to thriving success in all areas of her life.
Have you ever noticed yourself writing a story in your head about something that has happened in the world or in your life? What assumptions have you made about other people today? Who have you judged? These come naturally to us & we often do them unconsciously....
Today, I am joined by Jerry Fu a conflict resolution coach who helps Asian-American leaders advance in their career and life journeys. Jerry will share with us his 5-step Framework for Approaching a Difficult Conversation and examples of how he has used it in...
In Episode #53 Indra Rinzler joined me to talk about The Enneagram of Personality and the Four Doorways to Conscious Living. In our conversation after the interview, Indra shared with me some of his thoughts about conflict and peace. I was intrigued by what he said...
Today, I am joined by Joshua Kramer. Josh’s upcoming book, "The Unicorn in You", takes an un-self-help approach to finding a path to peace and joy. By identifying fundamental principles and the standards that guide them, he uses classic stories and timeless quotes...
A podcast series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. Today’s episode may feel like a bit of a walkabout as you hear the thoughts I will share, yet I invite and encourage you to journey with me on this little adventure of the mind. By the end...
“The Enneagram of Personality and the Four Doorways to Conscious Living” – Episode #53 of Co-creating Peace
A podcast series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. In this episode, I am joined by Indra Rinzler - a life-long spiritual seeker who will share a valuable tool for increasing our self-awareness and our understandings about others – Enneagram...
A podcast series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. In this episode, I have a great conversation with Sam Thiara about an acronym he has created that is central to his outlook and his work: CARE, which stands for Collaboration, Adaptability,...
A podcast series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. When nothing seems to be going your way, your best-laid plans are thwarted by the Fates, and it feels as though the bird of paradise is leaving droppings on your head, it is so easy to go...
A podcast series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. As we approach the birth of every new year, many people have the tradition of making resolutions for the new year. For 2022, I would like to invite you to resolve to resolve. Think about the...
A podcast series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. Sheella Mierson joins me to talk about a method of designing the flow of a conversation in a way that evokes more thoughtful responses, and which allows for each person to have a chance to...
A podcast series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. In this episode, I have the honor of speaking with Venerable Domo Geshe Rinpoche. The 9th Domo Geshe Rinpoche is the Spiritual Director of White Conch Dharma Center and abbot of Lotus Lake...
Part 2 of “Riverlogic – Finding Flow in our Conversational Spaces” – Episode #47 of Co-creating Peace
A podcast series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. This episode is a continuation of last week’s broadcast of my conversation with Denise Blanc about the flow of a river as a metaphor for conversation. In her forthcoming book, "Riverlogic...
Part 1 of “Riverlogic – Finding Flow in our Conversational Spaces” – Episode #46 of Co-creating Peace
A podcast series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. With me is Denise Blanc to share her thoughts on the flow of a river as a metaphor for conversation. This beautiful metaphor can help us to better practice conscious communication. In her...
A podcast series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. Holidays are usually thought of as a time of gathering with family and loved ones, and creating joyful memories. For some families, there is a different experience. Some people find...
A podcast series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. Last week Jack Lehman and I had a great conversation about how NVC uses observations, feelings, needs, and requests, as part of its communication structure. We discussed identifying our...
A podcast series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. In Episode #22, Jack Lehman gave us some insights into The Dao of Domination, and told us a little bit about a wonderful conscious communication tool called Nonviolent Communication®, also...
A podcast series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. Joining me from Lyon, France is Luke Archer, to talk about a peace education practice called Verbal Aikido, which is based on the Japanese martial art Aikido. Verbal Aikido practitioners train...
A podcast series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. As we all know, conflict often involves high emotion. Not everyone has the ability to manage their emotions, especially when their emotions are highly escalated. People sometimes completely...
A podcast series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. In Episode #16, "A Way to Co-create Relationships", I interviewed Sheella Mierson and Rachel Eryn Kalish about the Blueprint of We process. They described the Blueprint of We and gave...
A podcast series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. I am so pleased to have my dear friend and colleague, Tonya Covington, join me to talk about a very important field of mediation – especially in today's world. It is a powerful, yet...
A podcast series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. In this episode, I discuss Emotional Intelligence, also know as "EI" or "EQ", which is the ability to recognize, understand and manage our won emotions, and to recognize, understand and...
A podcast series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. We all struggle from time to time with how to express our emotions. We often either react to our feelings without thought, causing others to get upset, or we avoid talking about them...
A podcast series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. In this episode, I share with you a letter from a listener seeking advice about feeling rejected by family members and not knowing how to have a productive conversation about that. The...
A podcast series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. In previous episodes of this podcast, I have talked about the importance of being mindful of how we use words. In times of change and unrest, such as the times we are in now, new terms emerge...
A podcast series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. In this episode, I have the pleasure of speaking with Victor La Cerva about peacemaking and emotional fluency. Victor worked in violence prevention for more than 25 years. He remains engaged,...
A podcast series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. In episode #16 - "A Way to Co-create Relationships", I interviewed Sheella Mierson and Rachel Eryn Kalish about a way to co-create relationships: the "Blueprint of We'' process. They...
A podcast series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. I've mentioned mediation in some of the previous episodes of this podcast, but I haven't talked a lot about what mediation is, and how it compares to other methods of approaching conflict...
A podcast series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. In this episode, I have the pleasure of interviewing Amanda Trosten-Bloom, co-author of "The Power of Appreciative Inquiry". She will explain Appreciative Inquiry and we'll talk about its...
A podcast series about conscious communication and conflict transformation. In this episode, I share my thoughts on an interesting – sometimes beneficial, and more often detrimental – psychological phenomenon known as "confirmation bias". I also share a letter with...