“Inheriting Resentment”, Episode #107
A common cause of conflict between adult siblings and their parents is how the parents’ assets are, or will be, distributed. In this era of aging baby boomers, many of whom are making their end-of-life arrangements, this issue seems to be coming up even more frequently. Some parents choose to distribute some of their assets before they die, which can get mixed reactions from their children.
This isn’t as straightforward as some people imagine it to be. The concerns and upset aren’t always exclusively about the tangible assets. Complex emotional issues, sometimes going back to childhood experiences, often play into the dynamic as well. Because of that complexity, there isn’t a formulated path to peace in these situations. The best approach may be different for every family, possibly even for every child in that family. That said, there are tools such as Emotional Intelligence, Conscious Communication, and even negotiation which will be useful regardless of the individual situation.
I hope you enjoy “Inheriting Resentment”, Episode #107 of Co-creating Peace, a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation.
Today’s episode is a communication coaching session with a long-time fan of this podcast who wants some guidance on how to help her family work through conflict around her mother’s distribution of her assets.
Highlights of our conversation include:
- Applying Conscious Communication
- Broadening our goal for the outcome of a conversation to allow for greater possibilities
- Listening to understand, rather than to gain ammunition to convince
- Helpful ways to reflect what you hear
I hope that hearing this conversation with Sarah will be helpful to you. Please feel free to contact me if you would like to explore the possibility of receiving some communication coaching. If you would like to receive 1 or 2 free 30-minute communication coaching sessions, I invite you to come on the show for your communication coaching session, as Sarah did. This will be of benefit to our listeners, as well as to you, because many people share the same challenges as you do and can benefit from our conversation. You are welcome to change your name and the names of those involved to preserve your privacy.
Email me at firstname.lastname@example.org to learn more.